I think I would have to agree with you on that, SpicyLean.

It's not what I consider a wimp, it's what women conside a wimp.  Usually a nice guy who isn't that powerful.

Agreed. 

True.  I agree that a man (or woman for that matter) doesn't have to sleep with a lot of women to be a good lover.  But you have to admit that an experienced man knows how to woo a woman much better than an inexperienced man.  An inexperienced man will often not get a change to even have a date much less "talk to their partner" about pleasing their partner.  An experienced man has a much better chance at getting a woman.  They know what a woman wants already.

Originally posted by SpicyLean

Also women want a man that is confident... One wants that, but also a person who I could be his side bone instead of his back bone because when a woman is her man side bone, working together and she assisting him in coming up with ideas for their future instead of waiting for him to come up with a plan all by himself then say I am here for you when things get hard... Nah being their from the beginning is what matters... Am I wrong.  Mr. Duck Sauce... 

Sounds like you are a good women.  I have met so many women who are interested in leeching off a man.  If he doesn't have money or power or confidence, then they are gone.  They are not interested in staying by his side and building something together.  Often they want something already built and want to enjoy the fruits of the man's labor. 

A man has to be strong 100% of the time, and never show weakness, otherwise they are gone.  And yet they complain about a man not being sensitive and not showing his feelings.

It's a catch 22.  if you are nice, women think you are weak.  If you are too hard, they think you are a jerk.  It is such a hard balancing act to be a man and be attractive to women.

SpicyLean,

    You wanted to get some viewpoints, Here is my two cents worth

The standards of any individual are defined by his environment, his associates and information that he or she acquires that is, learned behaviour. Do you realize that for the man to be unfaithful, he is being unfaithful with an unfaithful woman. I  do believe the man or the woman defines his or her standards and is not limited to any Island or borders. It should also be noted that our standards sometimes help to influence or define other people's standard  

Thanks Joseph for your two cents... All two cents are welcome

I agree with some of you comments up top the first lines, but I definitely disagree with your justification that he men learned their demeanors from their women... I will agree if you say because the men see those behaviors from their fathers and they adapted them there,  then yeah' but not from their women.  I am not saying that women do not cheat, but that is a small percentage like 5% if that.  Most of the time is the men that are cheating because they don't know how to comunicate their feelings or just say to the woman we need to make some changes if it means spicing up the bedroom activities or him assisting in the chores around the house and make it apart of their sexual experience then things would get better; but some men are afraid to ask their woman to do certain sexual acts, so they prefer to go somewhere else, where they don't have respect that woman.. Anyway they do it, they are ending up not only disrespecting one woman but both.  So Mr. Joseph I disagree that men adapted their demeanors from their women, I think mainly from their fathers; and that I agree with.  I almost forgot it is not only an Island men thang, but I just wanted to narrow it down to Caribbean men but every one could give their opinions that's always welcome.